I’ve kind of been all over the place this month––jumping into all sorts of new tasks but not really finishing any of them. October is like that for me. I’ve realized how close we are to the end of the year and how much still feels like it needs to get done for me to relax and feel any bit accomplished this season. The last couple months of the year always fly by so I like to be on the ball. Nothing is pressing yet, but it’s on my list now, so I can get there mentally before I have to do it physically, if that makes any sense.
It’s getting cold and I’ve been slowly going through my closet and making donation piles of everything that doesn’t fit me––which means I don’t have a lot left to choose from. I feel frumpier than usual lately in my clothing because it’s all a bit baggy but I’m about 30 lbs away from obtaining my weight goals, so I’m wrestling with the frumpy feeling and the desire to buy new stuff that could potentially be a waste of money because I might not fit into it in a few months. I’ve been spending a lot of my time surfing the web for clothing, getting lost in Amazon k-holes but never actually purchasing the items I spend a good amount of time reading all the reviews for.
This month went by really quickly. We went to a family friend’s wedding on the 19th and I had a really good time. It gave me some perspective—watching two people so close to my age have so much of their lives figured out. In a way I think it re-lit the fire in me to be more mindful of the future. I also had this grand idea to start aquafit classes because I’m looking for an alternative way to workout that isn’t in a gym. I went to one class but wasn’t completely sold. I’ll probably try another before I abandon the idea completely.
SKINCARE. I’ve spent gobs of money this month refreshing and updating a lot of what I already had. I needed a new mascara, face powder and foundation. You know that time of year when everything just seems to run out? Super annoying when it falls around just before the holiday season. I’ve been in the market for a new face cream––which resulted in me ordering this Clinique mini to try out and The Ordinary’s Natural Moisturizing Factors + HA.
I purchased The Ordinary’s Caffeine Solution 5% + EGCG for dark circles. I’ve been finding that the shock of cold mornings to warm inside temperatures is making my under-eyes puffy and it lasts well into the afternoon. So I wanted to manage that, plus who couldn’t use some dark circle management?
I was also looking to add a little bit more colour and vibrancy to my skin so I purchased The Ordinary’s Vitamin C Suspension 23% + HA Spheres 2% which I put on as a last step before my moisturizer in the evenings. Another one of The Ordinary’s products I picked up was their infamous Buffet serum. I apply it in the mornings before my moisturizer and after my toner. I haven’t been using any of these products for too long so I can’t really speak accurately about them, but so far they’ve been good and doing what they’re supposed to.
REDDIT. I’m a big fan of forums. I spend a lot of time scrolling through different threads of topics I’m interested in. I love that it’s the real, unfiltered truth about almost anything and everything. There is literally a /subreddit for everything. Sometimes you really have to dig to get the gems, but it’s the perfect distraction to delve into while you’re trying to look busy at work. I enjoy visiting the profile pages of some of the users who have commented something I like or something useful on threads I’m reading. I think it’s interesting to see how people interact with the site and the kind of topics they feel necessary to add their input to. I also really like Quora.
STEEPED TEA. I’m a big coffee drinker, but sometimes it doesn’t hit the spot like tea does. I feel like I’ve been drinking gallons of steeped tea these past few weeks. Mostly because I think it pairs quite nicely with the cold rainy weather we’ve had lately. I take my tea with two milks and sometimes two sugars when I’ve got a little sweet tooth. And I find that Tim Horton’s still steeps their black tea the best (even if all of their other products have lost their quality and the new menu offerings are weirdly off brand).
WHAT I’M READING. I listened to the first, maybe few chapters of Trick Mirror and found it to be unenjoyable so I decided to return the credit in exchange for another one. I purchased Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell and The Most Fun We Ever Had by Claire Lombardo. Two books that were recently added to my reading list. When taking on multiple books at a time, I normally contrast a fiction novel with non-fiction just to give me variety in what I’m reading.
Talking To Strangers played out similarly like a podcast does. The chapters were sprinkled with interlude music that broke up the narrative well. The author made really solid points and I felt like I gained actual knowledge and understanding from the case studies he presented in line with the overarching theme. I didn’t find that there were a lot of takeaways, but I think that is because this book was meant more for awareness and correction of action going forward. I’m glad that I had the chance to get to it in such an enjoyable way, and I would definitely recommend listening to the audiobook version when you get around to reading it.
The Most Fun We Ever Had was a commitment! Something like 15-16 hours of listening/500-600 pages. It took me a few chapters to be able to figure out who the characters were and their relations to each other. I did end up becoming quite invested, sneaking listens to it whenever I could. I’ve always found myself fascinated with big family dynamics but overall it was pretty anticlimactic. I liked knowing the intimate thoughts and details of David and Marilyn’s marriage from both of their perspectives. The ending could have been way better for sure, but it was a great debut novel nonetheless.
I’ve started Conversations with Friends by Sally Rooney via audiobook and The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion via library book. I might try and get through the audiobook of Normal People by Sally Rooney as well. Not really sure how these books came to be next on my list but I’m reading what I feel pulled to read.
ON MY TOES THIS MONTH: Decided to go with a simple, universally complimentary baby pink. OPI’s Mod About You. It’s nice because you can wear it all year around without it feeling too summery. The colour is really beautiful and still makes my legs look like they’re tanned which makes me very happy.
To finish this off, I’m committing myself to taking the next couple months slower. With the end of the year and end of the decade quickly approaching, I feel it’s valuable for me to be more conscious of my thoughts, to explore my triggers and release any negativity in my life that I don’t want to take with me going forward. I want the next decade to be the expansive in so many beautiful ways and I need to get clear on those intentions. I invite you to also consider doing the same.
Xx wishing you light and love for November.